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Is it ok to comment on an athlete's body?

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In a world where elite athletes push the limits of human performance, people still feel entitled to comment on the bodies of athletes. From social media to sports commentary, athlete bodies are constantly judged, praised, picked apart, or criticized. Too often, weight and appearance overshadows performance.Here's the truth: this obsession with how athletes look is harmful and needs to stop.

Athletes Are Not objects
Athletes train to perform, not to conform to body image standards. Their bodies are shaped by the demands of their sport, proper fueling, and genetics, while maintaining optimal health - not by trends or ideals. Commenting on how those bodies look— muscular, lean, heavy, not "feminine" or "masculine" enough—devalues their hard work because of superficial judgment. Focusing on an athlete's appearance or weight detracts from their performance, leading to a skewed perception of what success truly means.

Damaging to Mental Health
No athlete is immune to the impact of body shaming or objectification. Negative comments can lead to anxiety, body dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, eating disorders, body dysmorphia and harmful behaviors. fuel anxiety, eating disorders, and body dysmorphia. Despite excelling in sport or being at the peak of their physical capabilities, athletes can suffer significant psychological stress from being critiqued for not conforming to unrealistic societal body image standards. The pressure to look a certain way, rather than perform at their best, can lead athletes to overtraining and under-eating, putting their health and careers at risk. Sport is stressful. Comments on body image adds to the pressure. Athlete bodies are built for sport, not for approval.

It’s Sexist
Comments concerning athletes' bodies often reflect underlying sexism. Female athletes face more scrutiny regarding their looks, attire, or body shape, whereas male athletes are often commended for their strength and power. This double standard perpetuates outdated gender roles, diminishing athletes to mere physical appearances instead of celebrating their achievements. Sexism can make athletes feel as if their worth is tied to their body image, leading them to prioritize looks over other achievements or health. The combined influence of sexist gender roles and unrealistic body ideals can significantly damage self-esteem and overall mental well-being.

Ignoring a Healthy Functional Body
When athletes focus excessively on appearance, they risk losing sight of the functional purpose of their bodies. A healthy body that perform well may not conform to conventional body image standards, demonstrating a distinction between a functioning body and an aesthetic one. There is no single "ideal" body type for athletic performance. Athletes can come in many shapes and sizes. Appreciating what the body can do, rather than what it looks like, may be a protective factor against body image problems, mental health issues and eating disorders.


Athletes are not training to meet beauty standards. They’re training to compete, to excel, to inspire, to protect their mental and physical health and to maintain joy for the sport that they love. Athletes deserve respect without conditions.

Stop obsessing over what athletes’ bodies look like. Let’s shift the focus from appearance to achievement.

Representation matters - body image and sport

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These are pictures from 2021 Ironman 70.3 Chattanooga.
These pictures were taken on the same day, of the same body. 
I share these pictures side by side as it's a reminder how the media and advertising has brainwashed athletes to believe that there is an ideal body type for sport. And without good self-esteem, body love and confidence, it becomes normal to be ashamed, embarrassed and disgusted by the body on the left. As a result, your body becomes something that you need to "fix" often through overexercising and undereating. 

I came across this IG post from Katie Moon and it got me thinking about representation. 


How many times have you been proud of your athletic performance but ashamed of how your body looked? As a result, you didn't share the picture of yourself performing. Or, perhaps blamed a poor athletic performance on your body. Or, your awesome athletic performance was dismissed because you didn't look like an athlete. 

When it comes to women in sport, having relatable role models is extremely important. Seeing is believing. 

Many athletes struggle with body image issues. In today's society, mainstream media has an unhealthy obsession with the "ideal" body type. Far too many athletes are bombarded with unrealistic images of how an athlete body should look. Thin arms, toned legs, firm butt, defined abs. Constant exposure to an idealized body type can lead to lower self-esteem and eating disorders.

And now it's getting even worse with AI. For example, take Aitana Lopez. She has 264K followers on Instagram, earns over $10,000 a month and she's not real. Yes, you read that correctly. She was created by a computer. She is not a real human. 

This sad truth only confirms that our society is hyper-focused on appearance. We continue to hear (and see) the same message that smaller is faster, happier, healthier, better, and more successful. Instead of empowering athletes to become the best versions of themselves by showcasing a variety of body types and shapes, athletes are constantly in pursuit of a specific body image due to the bombardment of images showing a unrealistic body standard. Trying to achieve this unrealistic "ideal" image only increases the risk for restrictive eating, dieting, underfueling, disordered eating, overexercising or an eating disorder. 

Representation is very important. Seeing someone who you can relate to is everything.

When we see a variety of athlete body sizes, shapes and colors, this helps to create positive images and messages as to what it means to be an athlete. It's very difficult for a self-conscious athlete who does not have an "ideal" body to believe in her/his/their abilities when there is no one to relate to. The same goes for minority groups.

Athletes come in all types of sizes and shapes. The wonderful thing about sport is that there does not have to be specific acceptable body type. Sport provides an opportunity to celebrate individuality. Let's stop the irrational thinking that there has to be a "typical" body type for every sport. 

Because representation matters, here are some ways that you can be part of the change: 
  • Don't edit your pictures. Share the real version of yourself. 
  • Stop the negative body talk.
  • Show that there is more to sport than an image.
  • Refrain from complimenting weight loss (or criticizing weight gain).
  • Celebrate the diverse range of body sizes and shapes.
  • Let go of judging a body type as "fast" or "race ready."
  • Become aware of your own biases around weight, body composition and health.
  • Get rid of size or appearance assumptions.
  • Acknowledge that bodies are allowed to change.
  • Celebrate your strengths and abilities.
  • Thank your body daily. 

Toxic Body Image Ideals

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I love my body and what it allows me to do.
However, it wasn't always this way. 

It took a long time to recognize, appreciate and acknowledge my strengths. Trying to look like someone else is pointless. Once I started to focus on my own needs, things started to change. I started to get stronger, fitter and healthier. 

When dealing with insecurities about the body (often as a result of wanting to look like the societal norm of 'athlete body') the common approach for athletes is to undereat and underfuel. But not giving the body what it needs to perform (and to stay healthy) shows a lack of respect for your body. And it certainly doesn't make you a better athlete. 

When you register for an event and commit to training for that event, you are an athlete. As an athlete, you have a responsibility to take care of your body. This means paying attention to your needs, respecting your body and not letting others affect how you feel about and fuel your body. As an athlete, you need to be appreciative of your body - your now body. And all that it is capable of. 

I've had a pretty awesome season. Actually, my body has done some pretty amazing things over the past few years. Back in May, I placed 5th age group in the Ironman World Championship in St. George. Two weeks later I placed 2nd age group in IM 70.3 Chattanooga and had a personal best time (just shy of 40 years of age). Two weeks later, I won my age group and placed 4th amateur female at IM 70.3 Blue Ridge. A week and a half ago, I was 2nd overall amateur and 1st age group at Ironman Lake Placid. 

I find myself going back to a post I shared on social media that reached over 30,000 people. This post wasn't about me. It was for athletes of all genders, shapes, ages and sizes who feel the pressure to look a certain way. It was for the many athletes who have experienced burnout, injury, health/hormonal issues or mental health struggles from feeling the pressure to look differently. The pressure doesn't just come from other athletes or social media but from coaches, parents and commentators. With so many assumptions about what an 'athlete body' should look like, it's not a surprise when an athlete struggles mentally and/or physically from trying to achieve the toxic "one size" standard.

This post was to encourage athletes to embrace their natural bodies and to work with your body in a way that is productive for athletic enjoyment and health. I hope that my words help to pave the way to a world of sport that is more inclusive, less judgements and supportive of all body types. 
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Why was her body....
‣Criticized
‣Objectified
‣Critiqued
‣Shamed
‣Trolled
‣Monitored
‣Bashed

What could she have achieved if she wasn't told that....
‣She would be faster if she was lighter.
‣Her legs were too big.
‣Her arms jiggled.
‣Her stretch marks/cellulite was unattractive.
‣She needed to cover up her stomach.
‣She had too much body fat.
‣She needed to lose weight.
‣Her body was not ideal.
‣She gained too much weight.
‣She was too muscular.
‣She wasn't feminine enough.
‣She was fat.
‣She was too big to succeed.
‣She would perform better if she was smaller.

What if instead, she was told she was....
‣Strong
‣Healthy
‣Capable
‣Resilient
‣Fierce
‣Brave
‣Courageous
‣Smart
‣Hard working

Maybe she wouldn't have.....
‣Developed an eating disorder.
‣Destroyed her self-worth.
‣Felt so insecure.
‣Lost confidence in her abilities.
‣Struggled with recovery.
‣Had difficulty sleeping.
‣Struggled with injuries.
‣Experienced a stress fracture.
‣Frequently suffered from sickness.
‣Developed a mental illness.
‣Experienced a significant health issue.
‣Excessively exercised and underfueled.
‣Quit her sport.

What if there was no "ideal image"?

What if we all preached self-acceptance and the importance of being comfortable in one’s own skin?

What if athletes were taught
how to care for mental and physical health?

What if coaches stopped idealizing the athlete body and instead, promoted the truth that each body is unique and has different advantages.

There is no perfect body. You do not need to conform to a standard. It doesn't matter what you look like, what you think others think of you or what you think you should look like.

What really matters is how you feel and how you perform using the incredibly amazing body that you have been given.

Societal (body image) pressures of female athletes

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Today is International Women's Day. A day to celebrate women's achievement, raise awareness against bias, stereotypes and discrimination and to take action for equality. A day to move closer and to eventually achieve a gender equal world. 

Although every day should be an important day to celebrate women's achievements while calling out inequality, today is an important day to remind female athletes that the power to change starts from within. When you take this approach, the world is better off. 

Far too many young girls, teenagers and young adults believe that the external view of their body defines their perception of their physical self. And when a female doesn't feel good about her looks, she may be hesitant (or refuse) to participate in sports, try out for a club, join a team or lack confidence in a professional setting. Many little girls grow up idealizing certain celebrities, athletes and influencers with the idea that they must look a certain way. These girls grow up to become teenagers and then adults. Throughout life, bodies change. When a female struggles to accomplish a certain body, she can become very self-conscious and may resort to unhealthy and drastic measures. 

There's no denying that conventional mainstream media has greatly contributed to negative body image among girls and women. All over TV, movies, magazine covers and ads are females looking thin, defined and beautiful. Messages about body image are almost always shaped by the media, beauty and diet industry and claims of health and fitness. With a unified message showing how all women should appear - this creates an idealized body image. Let's not forget that most "perfect" bodies are digitally altered and filtered. If you are like most women, you have been criticized, bullied or shamed by others - or you criticize yourself - for being "too big" and not fitting the standard. 

Due to lack of representation of women who do not meet an idealized image or beauty standard, race, age or ability, it's very difficult for a women and girls to see themselves as beautiful......and normal. As a result, women and girls have unrealistic expectations of what a female body should look like and this creates feelings of low self worth and inadequacy. If we want a world with gender equality, we need to change the norms and expectations about the female body. Age, race, religion, ethnic origin, socio-cultural status, ability and identity should carry the same weight as body image when it comes to social inclusion. 

On International Women's Day, I encourage you to think about your relationship with your body. 
  • When do you feel most dissatisfied with your body? 
  • Where did your toxic attitudes about your body and negative self-talk come from (and when did they begin)? 
  • Who taught you to hate your body? 
  • Who taught you to love your body? 
  • What changes do you make with your diet/exercise routine when you feel "off" in your skin? 
  • Why do you feel great pressure to change the way that you look? 
Helping female athletes develop (and maintain) a healthy relationship with food and the body is a topic that I will always promote. I've written over 30 articles on the topic, created a program to helping female athletes unlearn toxic dieting behaviors and fix the dysfunctional relationship with food and the body that is sabotaging performance while negatively impacting mental and physical health and it's a subject matter that I discuss with all of my nutrition and coaching athletes. 

Far too many female athletes struggle with the contrast between a body that is healthy and performs well in sport and a body that meets "social standards." While some athletes see weight loss as a means for sport improvements, many athletes adhere to rigid eating rules to look a certain way. When a female athlete has issues with how she looks, there's a good chance that this athlete will intentionally undereat and overexercise in an attempt to change her shape, size or weight....but with this comes the inability to meet energy, hormonal and nutrient needs. Food and body image become a mental stressor as health and performance deteriorate. 

There is no escaping the fact that female athletes are objectified. Glorifying unattainable standards of the body of a female athlete can negatively impact the self-esteem of women - especially young female athletes. Female athletes do not deserve to be judged, shamed and sexualized. A female athlete's looks should not override the celebration of her athletic ability.

The power of change starts from within. In a society where societal expectations and pressures on how a female body should look often drive females to diet, exercise and cosmetically change their image/shape/size, how can we move to a more gender equal world if women constantly feel the need to change to meet a standard? 

This leads me to an even more important question....

Who the heck is setting this body image standard that you feel you need to achieve?  

A set of beauty standards with the mission of achieving an ideal (or approved) shape, size, weight or appearance does not help us move toward equality. 
It's unfair and unrealistic. Far too many women are discriminated against simply for being (or not being) a certain size.

Let's stop the objectification of the female body and see every body type as an amazing piece of art. Your body is a gift and it should be celebrated and cherished. Body diversity is normal. Only when you care for your body properly, can we move closer to female body acceptance. 


Addressing the body positive movement and weight loss

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Body positivity challenges the ways in which our society presents, celebrates and views bodies.  Sadly, far too many body shapes and types have been shunned by the mainstream media or not classified as beautiful. Our society has a fixation on the "tiny" ideal and encourages everyone to fit the social standards of being lean. This is why there are so many movements promoting body positivity. Because many people feel discriminated against because their body doesn't meet the "ideal" image, the body positive movement challenges social norms and promotes the belief that all bodies - regardless of size, shape, gender, physical abilities or skin tone - should be accepted.

The body positivity movement is a necessary movement but it can also be controversial - can you have a positive relationship with your body and desire weight loss/a change in your body composition? 

First off, it is a myth that large bodies are unhealthy. Being bigger doesn't mean being unhealthy. Someone can be thin and unhealthy. As an example, all runners are susceptible to injuries and overuse injuries - not just larger bodies. 

Secondly, your body = your choices. You deserve respect, equality and kindness regardless of your body size, what foods you eat or your health status.

Lastly, large bodies are not the only humans who can struggle with body image. Learning to hate your body is the primary goal of the diet industry. You can be small/thin and have a negative body image.

One of the missing focal points when discussing the body positive movement is the topic of developing and maintaining a positive body image. A positive body image means you embrace, accept and appreciate your body for all that it can do. You can be body positive but not have a positive body image - and vice versa. But both are important when it comes to weight loss. Body dissatisfaction often leads to unhealthy behaviors. If you love something, you are more likely to treat it well.

First off, the decision to lose weight should be a personal choice - not because you feel pressure to achieve an idealized image. This is why the body positive movement is so important. You should never feel pressure to look a certain way. If you desire weight loss, you need to be body positive and have a positive body image.

Choosing to become more active, eat a more nutritious diet and to live a more healthy lifestyle doesn't need to happen because you hate your body. Taking better care of yourself is a positive thing to do for your body.

The diet industry wants you to believe that your looks are everything and with weight loss, you will be happy and healthy. This desire of happy and "healthy" can lead to unhealthy behaviors like overexercising, dieting and eating disorders. When it comes to body positivity, I want to remind you that health is made of many different factors. You can't tell how healthy someone is from how they look.

And just because you lose weight or change the way your body looks, this doesn't mean that you will feel happier - or become healthier. Don't pin your happiness on achieving a smaller version of yourself. Weight loss should not come from a place of hate towards your body. Changing your body doesn't change how you feel about food, exercise and your body image.

For those who don't understand the body positive movement, there's a belief that this movement is normalizing unhealthy bodies. And this is not what this movement is about.

There's tremendous social pressure to look a certain way. Most people are not comfortable with what they see in the mirror because society has brainwashed you to believe that you need to change how you look in order to be healthier, fitter, happier and more successful. The diet industry has created an illusion that smaller = healthier.

All bodies deserve to be accepted. Your body should not be judged. But let's also celebrate self-care - even if your self-care acts don't lead you down the road to significant weight loss - and that is ok.

Body positivity is about finding an exercise regime that you enjoy, changing your diet because it makes you feel good, sleeping well to be more rested and looking after your mental health. Weight loss goals or not - don't forget to be kind to your body.

Backlash over the athlete body

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It's been interesting to hear the reactions to Kara Goucher's recent Facebook post which was a response to the body shaming within Oregon's Track and Field program).

From "amen" and "enough is enough" to "she's so thin, what is she talking about" and "she has body dysmorphia if she thinks she has fat" the feedback has been mixed. I assume that most reactions to the Oregon situation of fat shaming and eating disorders are outrage and sadness whereas some people are finding it hard to believe that an athlete like Kara Goucher would have body image issues - especially when the pictures she posted were what appeared to be a lean and fit athlete.

There's a lot to unpack here but I will try my best without writing a book on this topic. Although I've probably written over a hundred articles/blogs on this topic so I could very well turn that into a book. Nonetheless, here we go.....how did we get here?

Diet Culture
Diet culture is a system of beliefs that values health, well-being, thinness, appearance and shape. Diet culture conditions people to believe that thinness equates to health, fat is unhealthy and achieving the idealized body makes you more morally superior than others. Diet culture offers programs and products to help you achieve an ideal of what is considered "healthy" or "fit". If you don't match up with an idealized image, diet culture wants you to spend an excessive amount of time, money and energy trying to change the way that you look. Diet culture demonizes certain foods and styles of eating and praises others. This makes you feel guilt and shame for eating certain foods as diet culture emphasizes "good" versus "bad" foods (which change by the season), encourages you to restrict calories and normalizes critical self-talk. Diet culture teaches you that your self-worth is measured in pounds and you are only as good as your size. Diet culture doesn't need you to "be on a diet" to be caught up in the culture of dieting. Diet culture needs you to be insecure about your body (ex. cellulite, stretch marks, weight, rolls, skin, wrinkles) for diet culture to profit. And how do these insecurities arise? Often from social media, television, advertising.

Idealized Body Image
There's a good chance that as you scroll through social media, browse through a magazine or watch TV, you instantly start to compare your body to others. Somehow, you have a picture in mind of someone who has a perfect body and you envy that body (or what that person has achieved because of that body). Where did this ingrained idea of a "perfect" body come about?
Throughout history, we as a culture (and society) have been obsessed with size. It's become attached to our identity. This obsession with size has created a construct of the "ideal" body. From curvy and thick to thin and childlike, this image has changed many times throughout history. Unfortunately, as this ideal changes, people (primarily women) try to conform to the "ideal." Interestingly, the highest prevalence of disordered eating occurs at a time when the "ideal" woman is thin. With a strong divide in the way bodies are presented on the media, thinness is celebrated whereas larger bodies are highlighted as unattractive and unhealthy. When we are inundated with images of a particular body type that is viewed as healthy, attractive, healthy, successful and beautiful, we are taught to believe that this particular body type is ideal. This matters because constant exposure to images promoting thinness, muscularity or both contributes to body dissatisfaction and low self-esteem. Aspiring to this ideal figure can cause people to engage in disordered eating behaviors such as restrictive eating or purging or excessive exercising. With so many images reinforcing a similar type of body, this sends the message that a certain body is more preferred than others.

Body Shaming Athletes
Diet culture and the idealized image always go together. Given that so many people are dissatisfied with body image, diet culture is there to help you do things (ex. weight loss, dieting, exercise) to help you achieve that image – all with the promise that you will be healthier, more attractive, happier and more successful when you meet that idealized image. Although media plays a vital role in formulating what is attractive in society, comments made by coaches, journalists and commentators can lead to body dissatisfaction. Many authority figures are predisposed to an aesthetic bias that thinner is better. Lighter is faster. Fat is slow. Imagine two runners showing up to practice. One is curvy around the midsection and the other is lean and defined. Due to society’s idea of “fit” and healthy, the curvy girl is more likely to be told by coaches, commentators and the media that she doesn’t fit the expectations of an ideal runner’s body. She may be told to lose weight to improve her chances of being successful at races or she may be told that she’s great for a “bigger” athlete. We don’t need society/coaches/commentators to put athlete bodies and sizes into boxes to label, objectify and to discriminate. But there’s a good chance that you may already do this. How many times have you looked at an athlete at the start of a race and assumed that this athlete was “fast” based on their body composition? Athletes are stereotyped every day. Far too many coaches (typically male) assume that diet and exercise are the only factors that contribute to a person’s weight or size. Instead of celebrating that everyone is born with a body that is unique to them and to encourage them to embrace their unique qualities, body shaming is common in many sports. One of the many reasons why athletes become dissatisfied with their bodies is because of body shaming. Inappropriate, negative or attitudes towards a person’s weight or size is wrong and unfair. When your coach adds pressure on you to lose weight or to look a certain way, you become fixated on achieving that image. Nothing else matters. And this isn’t limited to curvy athletes like the example above. Even lean athletes that meet an “idealized” image can feel dissatisfied with their bodies. Again, we are mislead to believe that thinner = happier and healthier. 

Health at Risk
Diet culture, an idealized image and comments made by coaches/commentators have made you believe that your body isn’t good enough. In an effort to fit the body ideal, diet culture sweeps you up and reminds you of all of the tips and tricks for changing your body composition - all of which are extreme and unhealthy. Whereas you may have started with good intentions to change your diet to become a better athlete, trying to meet a body ideal is almost always damaging to mental and physical health because the focus is on the image of your body - not on the function or health of your body. Your genes play a very important role in determining how much you weigh throughout your life. More or less, you have a genetic code for your body type and that blueprint is a weight range that is one that you can healthily maintain. If you try to step too far outside of that range (ex. weight loss) your body systems will make changes to try to get you back into that weight range. Fatigue, hunger, cravings and headache are a few symptoms that you may immediately feel. But that is why the diet culture has taught you tricks on how to boost energy through coffee, curb cravings with sugar-free foods and fight hunger with willpower and water. Your body will always defend your set range to keep you healthy. This is why so many athletes experience short and long-term (and often career-ending) health issues as a result of insufficient caloric intake relative to energy expenditure. For most athletes, to achieve an “idealized” image that you are told (or you think) will make you a better athlete, you are approaching a losing battle as you attempt to fight evolution – your biology, your brain, your organs, your immune system, your digestive system, your hormones, your metabolism. It’s important to remember that you are not just an athlete, you are a human being. 

With so much more that I can unpack as it relates to diet culture, an idealized image and disordered eating I’d like to leave you with this. 

Many athletes have an unhealthy relationship with food and the body. Many athletes develop disordered eating or an eating disorder. 

As the narrative continues that “lighter is faster” and “thinner is better” it’s critical that we – as a society - control for disordered eating. When an athlete improves performance because she lost weight, are we celebrating her weight loss as a result of an eating disorder? Is anyone looking after her mental and physical health? Are we looking after long-term health? Was this weight loss induced by fat-shaming and weight stigma? Are there warning signs for an eating disorder? Is this athlete maintaining a normal menstrual cycle? Is this ‘perfect’ athlete body being referenced and glamorized something that is universally achievable and realistic? What kind of messages are being sent to athletes with "normal" bodies? Encouraging or celebrating weight loss reinforces that fact that athletes are judged by their body image.

You are more than a view of your body. Respect your body. Don't diet. Don't self-deprecate. Workout because you love what you can do with your body - not because you feel you need to change it.

If you maintain a healthy relationship with food and your body, you nourish and fuel your body and you train in a systematic and smart way, your body will naturally transform into the perfect YOU for optimal performance.

Trust me.
Why?

Because there are far too many testimonials of athletes who have tried to optimize performance through dieting and/or over-exercising and it's never the fairytale story that we are made to believe by diet culture and the media. 

Dressing an athletic body

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This past weekend we made a quick trip to Indianapolis for my the wedding of my cousin Orin to his beautiful bride Kiotta. 




It was a Jewish wedding inside the Arts Garden and the ceremony was beautiful. 


We left on Saturday afternoon and stayed the night at a friends house in Lexington, KY. I am always overcome with nostalgia for my first 22 years of life when I return to my home state/town. Karel and I had both planned on working out before we made the 5.5 hour drive but we decided to do some long-overdue deep house cleaning. On Sunday morning, we went for a run at Shilito Park and it brought back a lot of great memories from my childhood. We picked up bagel sandwiches for breakfast and then made our 3-hour drive to Indianapolis. I had not been to Indy in a very long time but Karel remembered the downtown from his drive to Madison, WI w/ his mom back in 2018 when they came to watch me race at IMWI (I flew there and we all drove back together so that we could visit my Grandpa Joe for his 90th birthday).

I booked an Airbnb for the night and after checking in, I finished up my gift for Orin and Kiotta (pictured below) while Karel went out to get us a snack from the grocery. 

 

I was really looking forward to the opportunity to get dressed up as it had been a long time since I had a reason to get fancy. I love dresses and I couldn't wait to wear the dress that I purchased last year online from Shein (the wedding was supposed to be July 2020 but was moved to October this year due to COVID). Before we left I tried on the dress and I was a bit concerned because I had to wiggle my way into it. While it looked nice once it was on, it was not an easy fit. This really got me thinking about the clothing industry and how difficult it is to dress an athletic body. And I'm not just talking about muscles but the many different shapes, curves and characteristics that make an athlete's body unique and special.



If you are a female athlete, there is a good chance that you find yourself at odds with the cultural body ideal.

I can remember trying on dresses for my high school senior prom and it was clear that the clothing manufacturers were not catering to my athletic body. I couldn't find anything to fit my short stature or my wide back and broad shoulders acquired from competitive swimming. I finally found a two-piece dress that had a tie-back top, which I could adjust to fit my unique physique.

Still today, I find it difficult to dress for my body type. But I take pride in my athletic body and I refuse to conform to societal norms.

How many times has your day been ruined after putting on clothes that didn't fit your body type? Do you feel embarrassed and ashamed when you need a size bigger than what you are used to?

Keep in mind that there is no clothing design template that can be customized for every body type. If you don't fit the mold, you DO NOT need to change your body. Resorting to unhealthy dieting or exercise regimes to reach an "ideal" body type is not the solution.

Instead, change your clothes. Purge clothes that no longer serve you well physically, emotionally or mentally. Change your infatuation with a size on a label or a number on a bathroom scale.

Find clothes that work for your body. Don't let clothes dictate how you feel about yourself. Wear clothes that make you feel proud of your shape, size and image. The minute you blame your own body for ill-fitting clothing, you are objectifying your body and basing your self-worth on your appearance.

I'm no fashionista but I know that I don't need to fix my body to feel good about what I wear. Embrace your size, skin color, hair texture, shape, sexuality, disability, race and any other characteristic that makes you special and unique.

Nobody is built the same. There is nothing wrong with you. Find acceptance with how you are built - even if your body isn't an easy fit.